Jan 17

Good and Bad Things About Seducing a Married Woman

Seducing a married woman and engaging in an affair have some good benefits but at the same time there are some bad things you should be aware of.

If you want to know how to seduce a married woman, which you probably will since you are reading this, the easy and best way to do it is first of all to put yourself in her place and analyze how her present situation could be.

Whatever you do or not do, you can be assured that a married woman will only engage in a relationship with you if she is unhappy with her husband. Maybe she has everything she ever wanted in life – like kids, a dog, a shiny car, big house with a nice garden but the passion is gone because her husband took her for granted, he doesn’t give her compliments or has stopped trying to talk her pants off. He has stopped finding her attracting and the sex is history in their relationship.

If those things have happened in her life, which actually happen a lot with married people, then she could be open for fulfilling her sexual needs elsewhere meaning you.

Bad things about seducing a married woman

If you are going to seduce a married woman you should at least have in mind about what could happen if you fall in love with the woman and you want more than just a sexual relationship.

If you fall in love with her and decide you want her, you could ruin her marriage, life and everything she is used to in her normal life. If she doesn’t have the same feeling towards you other than a fun affair, then you should consider this trap there is about seducing a married woman.

On the other hand if she also falls in love with you and things escalate, then you are going for the entire package if she has got kids. Kids are first priority in most women’s life, and you should be aware that you always come second.

So at least consider the worst case scenario about ruining other people’s life because of sex.

The benefits about seducing a married woman

The above things and starting a life with an unhappy married woman with kids is not necessarily bad, and you shouldn’t back off women just because they are married. There are a lot of benefits engaging in a sexual relationship with married women, especially because there are a lot of such women out there who don’t get fulfilled in their life with sex and fun.

One of the best benefits about trying to seduce a married woman is that it is very easy if the woman doesn’t get her sexual pleasure taken care of at home.

Another thing is she doesn’t need you to get her kids, house, dog, car and all those things women dream of having while they grow up. All you need to bring to the table is, being her funny sexy guy that get her away from boring stuff for a few hours and make her feel happy after she leaves you. She could probably easily fall in love with you, because you only give her pleasure and all the downsides things she only sees in her husband.

A few good things in seducing a married woman arrangement:
•She won’t give you all the daily whining because she has a husband
•She won’t be jealous (unless she falls in love with you)
•She won’t phone you all the time
•She won’t tell anybody probably
•You will only see her from her best sexual side
•You can have this arrangement for years
•You will have time seeing others

Jan 17

Divorce and Financial Resolutions – Working Together

The holy grail of divorce proceedings, for all those involved, is to reach an amicable agreement between the divorcing parties on all issues regarding finances (and custody) as swiftly as possible, instead of relying on a judge to make a court ruling which may not best suit one or both of the parties. The more conflict there is, the more expensive the process is, the more damage is done to the relationship and, most importantly, the more damage is done to the children involved and their own relationships.

Mediation

One process which can minimise conflict and cost is mediation. At the heart of this process is the idea that both sides will meet face to face with a neutral mediator (who may or may not be a trained lawyer) to discuss and resolve particular sticking points. The mediator cannot advise the divorcing couple, only facilitate their discussions. This may involve suggesting that parties should seek further advice in financial or legal matters if they deem it necessary however. Both parties can still consult individual lawyers outside of the process but their lawyers are not allowed to take part in the meetings themselves. At the end of discussions, the mediator will write up and prepare the agreed terms so that each legal team can sign them off – entering into a legally binding agreement in doing so.
Mediation can prove significantly cheaper than following the court route with costs estimated at £500 per person compared to costs in the region of £5k to £20k for court hearings. Furthermore, the wider good that face to face discussions do to the relationship between the parties and therefore the handling of their children can be immeasurable.

Collaboration

A relatively new technique which is gaining in popularity is that of collaboration. In a collaborative divorce procedure, each party appoints a specialist collaboration lawyer and the individuals and their lawyers all meet face to face (as opposed to traditional correspondence between lawyers) to discuss and hopefully resolve disputes without the need to go to court. Collaborative lawyers are trained to work together towards a solution rather than solely representing their own clients and again the process can bring in other professional advisors to facilitate the meetings in relation to financial matters or child welfare.

If the collaboration process does not yield a resolution, the case will still then need to be heard in court, however, each party must enlist new legal representation and the discussions held in the collaborative process cannot be referred to in the court hearing without the consent of both sides. This exercise in drawing a line and making a clear distinction between the collaboration process and the courts ensures that the discussions in the former can be as open as possible.

Again collaboration should prove cheaper than the court route as it is often limited to around 3 to 6 meetings with court hearings only occurring if the process fails. Successful collaboration can therefore negate the expense of extended litigation and correspondence by post etc.

Funding Issues

As mentioned above, following a collaboration or mediation route can prove significantly cheaper than taking financial disputes to the courts. This is becoming particularly salient as the government looks to reducing the funds available to prospective divorcees through legal aid and because of the fact that fewer law firms are now prepared to take on legal aid cases due to their added bureaucracy (legal aid applications etc). The rationale behind government cuts to legal aid are that more couples should be encouraged to pursue mediation and this is being backed by a significant increase in mediation funding.

For those who do find themselves in court and can’t access legal aid there are ways of accessing funds which involve the the lending of money, via a solicitor, from a bank or a litigation investor. In addition, employing a solicitor on a fixed fee rather than an hourly rate can not only control but significantly reduce costs. However, the most effective way of ensuring that the funds needed for the future of the individual and their children are left intact is to make use of either mediation or collaboration.

Jan 17

Save Marriage Professional Tips – Knowing What Occurred

You’ll frequently hear that you have to apologize for something you did in a relationship but what else could you do if you do not know very well what took place? Many people think that they’re apologizing because of what happened but actually; there’s a hidden reason that exists and that’s difficult to discover if you do not know what you are looking for.

All of the save marriage experts agree that your apology will not be effective in the event that you don’t understand: • What actually happened • What you did wrong • Exactly how the spouse feels

Knowing Exactly What Occurred To Save Marriage

Whenever we say “knowing what happened”, it is important to see the feeling of the spouse. You might believe that something happened and he/she might have an entirely different perception. A lot of apologies end at this point because a quarrel starts about what truly happened. Every time you want to apologize, the perception you have is not suitable. You need to see what the partner thinks and this is actually the 1st step you need to take.

Knowing What You Did Wrong In Order To Save Marriage

Your role in the entire situation is certainly essential. You must know how your behavior led to the perceived problem. Never ever look at who’s right and try to see what the partner thinks you did. It is necessary to do that even if you didn’t plan to do something wrong or if you wished to do something bad. Apologies are usually needed whenever your partner was hurt by something that you did.

Understanding How the Spouse Feels To Save Marriage

This is actually the tough one. It is usually hard to know exactly how your spouse feels but it’s required. In many cases we find ourselves assuming that we know how the spouse feels but this might not be the case. If it’s not, your apology will not be effective. Once again, it is just a problem of perception. Each person is different. What might irritate one might not mean anything to another person.

You have to take the necessary time to actually figure out how your partner feels about the incident that is in question. In most cases the only solution that exists is a nice conversation. Sadly, couples do make the mistake of ending up arguing when such talks take place. Make certain you simply listen to your partner and let him/her tell you what’s wrong. When you know how the spouse feels, your apology can be very effective.

Do You Need Assistance?

If you have problems with any of the 3 steps stated earlier, make sure that you talk to a professional that can tell you what you’re doing wrong and explain how to save marriage situations such as these. You could learn all the skills which are needed and you can solve all the problems which arise in a marriage. Just be sure that you act fast and that you acknowledge that you could use help if this is the situation!

Jan 17

Relationships

Relationships Heart aches, happiness, and drama are words associated with relationships. Most people have experienced what it feels like to get their hearts broken like Adele or Taylor Swift. They’ve experienced what it feels like to love someone with all their heart and have dealt with drama from family members and friends. So how in the end have they gotten through it?

Being in a relationship is tough, breaking up with a person is tougher, and moving on from a bad relationship is the toughest. First we experience a first date. Both people may feel nervous like a thousand butterflies have suddenly swarmed into their stomachs. The date goes well and both parties feel like he or she is on cloud nine. Smiling and acting giddly because you feel like you met the right person.

Then you go on more dates and began to form a link between the two of you. Now the game of love becomes harder because the two of you must work to ensure that link stays strong by communication and trust.

Sometimes communication and trust can be lost due to drama, tension, and jealousy. Drama causes tension between a couple resulting in unneeded arguments about little things. You were jealous of a special relationship your man or woman has with another friend. Most people have a friend who they joke around with and you just have to accept it to avoid drama. Yes, sometimes drama happening in a relationship is good because it causes a couple to get through the drama and become stronger, but too much of it can cause a couple to split causing unhappiness.

Jealousy also leads to lost of communication and trust. We experience the feeling of being jealous of another person trying to take our man or woman. Man and Woman sometimes become like animals.

Their territory is marked and when someone else invades what they see as their territory he or she will fight to protect to it. The “animal” does not want that invader coming in and stealing their partner away. We are insecure will see invaders that are out to steal our partners as well. Friends who want to talk to our partners become time stealers, taking away the time we want with our partner. A jealous mind set can lead to couples, spending less time together, sitting, living in the same house but not talking , or becoming strangers.

A person should be happy in a relationship, not constantly unhappy. Yes, a person is not going to be happy all the time because obstacles in life ,but when a person is unhappy more than happy in a relationship then it needs to end because then it is damaging to both.

Hurting and pain is a part of life. When a relationship is not working out most of us are afraid to hurt the other person by breaking up because we know how it will hurt them. Most of us have been unhappy in a relationship, and were afraid to leave and make our partner unhappy. It is better to leave in a relationship and be single then be unhappy in a relationship.

Yes, it is hard to move on since we may still love this person or we are so attached to this person. We cared so much that we spent money, time and energy on the person. We may do all that only to learn that he or she may have cheated on us or talk against us. This pushes us farther back from moving on.

Moving on allows us to become stronger, to realize that the person who hurt us wasn’t worth it, and to allow us to explore other fish in the sea.

When we start to explore we sometimes begin to explore a “fish” that has been there for us all the time like a friend. We are afraid to become more than that and risk losing them as a friend if the relationship goes bad. Many of us to put up walls, and making it hard for anyone else to get through due to being afraid of getting hurt or losing a friend. Getting hurt is painful but it hurts even more when we push a person away who wants to treat us right.

Most of us believe the new person will do the same things the other person did and hurt us causing the person to feel wanted and end the relationship.

We are all going to get hurt by people in life. In relationships there are going to be people who put us down, are nosy and want to know what is going on between the two of you, or don’t want you to see you hurt.

So accept the fact that hurt and pain will happen and learn to grow in a relationship. At the end of the day it is your life . So when someone is trying to butt in just ignore them and be happy because that is all that matters.

Jan 17

Top Questions about Abusive Relationships

It’s very difficult to identify a relationship that is abusive. We often tend to neglect or fail to understand the signs of abuse until one day it’s too late. Verbal and physical abuse most commonly occur in a relationship and most of the time the victims choose to stay quiet due to fear or other reasons such as insecurity or just ignorance of their legal rights. There are several questions that arise as a result. Below are the most commonly asked questions online:

Q. Can an abusive relationship cause physiological problems?

Physiological problems can arise if a relationship is abusive and is not detected early. These problems have to be dealt with in a healthy and healing way. Verbal and emotional abuse can be as traumatic as physical violence and may lead to many physiological problems. Emotional counseling can be a great healing option and can help an individual overcome the pain and trauma.

Q. How can an individual help his/her friend who is a victim of mental abuse and yet refuses to get out of the relationship?

You can contact the local services agency and they can help the individual. With the right kind of help, you can save a friend’s life. You can only guide a friend to the trained abuse professionals and hope that they get all the help they need. Even as an onlooker or a bystander, watching someone suffer in an abusive relationship can be very upsetting. The best thing to do is to consult a good lawyer and seek legal help.

Q. Can a victim of abusive relationship get a restraining order to freeze the marital assets kept in a bank, if he / she is planning to leave that relationship?

Both partners have equal rights if assets are in both their names. The bank generally provides an extra key when the safety deposit is in the name of both the partners. But if it’s in the name of only one partner then the safety deposit box can be accessed only by that partner. If that’s the case, the other partner can ask for a court order to prevent the misuse, disposal or damage to the assets. This court order can help an individual protect his/her assets until some kind of property settlement has been decided upon. If the individual still feels unsafe and threatened by the abusive partner, he/she may also request for a protective order. This will keep the abusive spouse away till the court has taken a final decision in the case.

Q. As a parent, how to find a psychiatrist for an adult child that has been a victim of physical and emotional abuse and who has also been suffering from Stockholm syndrome?

Contacting the Local National Alliance for Mental Health would be the first step. To find the local office, the individual can visit the website www.nami.org. The individual will also find a number of support services and contact details including references of good psychiatrists on this website. There are several ongoing domestic violence support groups too that will help and assist the individual to deal with his/her situation.

Q. If someone is accused of domestic abuse and has been served with an order of protection, will they try to get a plenary order at the next hearing and if so, is a court appearance needed?

Any orders of protection, including a plenary, can be given by the judge ex parte. This means that the judge can pass a protection or plenary order even if the respondent is not present. When the individual is present in a court’s hearing, the judge gives him/her a chance to explain his/her side of the story. But if the individual is not present, then the court hears only the partner’s or spouse’s story. This could influence the court to such an extent that the judge might pass a judgment that is not in favor of the individual and might hurt the individual later. So there are chances of losing everything if he/she abstains from a court hearing.

We must be sensitive to the signs of a abusive relationships. It is also important to watch and hear the victims. An abusive relationship not just affects the two partners involved but even their children, families and close friends. However, help is available for victims, be it medical, psychological or legal.

Jan 17

Emotional Intelligence for Romantic Partners

I once worked with a couple suffering from on-going conflict. As Part of the emotional intelligence assessment, I asked the man, John, to state his primary concerns about his wife’s behavior. He explained that his wife, Katie, would, become wildly emotional and hostile with out provocation. He went on to explain that she was unable to discuss her behavior after the fact or accept responsibility for her harmful words and actions. The woman sat listening attentively and appeared moved by what her husband said. I then continued with the emotional intelligence assessment by asking the woman, Katie, to explain in her own words what her husband’s concerns were about her behavior. As part of a life coaching exercise, Katie explained that John was concerned primarily with her difficulty keeping up with housework, that she had gained weight and was less interested in sex. As she spoke, John looked deflated. When it was pointed out how vastly different these two accounts were, John withdrew and Katy grew angry and felt “ganged up on.”

To understand how these discrepancies develop we must take a look at two toddlers playing in a sand box. From a distance, they seem to be playing nicely together. They both have trucks, they both make vroom vroom noises and both are quiet and happy. We might say that they are “good friends” or that they “play well together.” However, a closer look reveals something different. The children are not exactly playing “together.” Yes, they are both in close proximity to one another. Yes, they both have trucks and therefore share a common interest. Yes, they are both making vroom vroom noises but no, they are not really interacting.

This is what child development experts refer to as “parallel play.” Toddlers are too young to respond to another’s needs or even understand that another person’s perspective is different than their own. Although they play in the same sand box, they do not have the ability to consider the other’s feelings. They both have trucks but the trucks are working separately, engaged in different activities. It requires emotional intelligence skills to make it to the next level of relating to someone else.

Most children learn to develop more complex behaviors that incorporate others into their play. For example, one child plows the road into the village and the other child uses the same road to bring supplies into the village. Another example involves one child driving a toy police car and playing the role of the “cop,” while the other child decides to play the role of the “robber” and gets chased.

The children in these examples are beginning to interact with one another. Building on these skills lead to interpersonal connection. Adults risk feeling judged and rejected when they disclose personal information. When another person acknowledges this vulnerability and responds in a loving and non-judgmental manner, a connection is established. Connections like this lead to trust, intimacy and closeness in relationships. These emotional intelligence skills are the building blocks for healthy relationships.

John and Katie were both professionals making a good income. Both enjoyed similar leisure activities and both had congruent aspirations for the future with regards to continuing education and preparing for retirement. The two adults appeared to “play well together” yet both were suffering from a lack of emotional connection. In the example above, Katie failed miserably when asked to repeat her husband’s concerns. John in turn had similar challenges in understanding Katie.

Just as the toddlers in the sandbox appear to be “good friends” and to be “playing nicely together,” adults often appear to make a great couple at first glance. However, a closer look at a couple’s interactions may reveal more pain than is apparent to the outside observer. Two adults share equally in the division of household labor. They both contribute financially to the maintenance of the household. They even share similar interests and upbringing, yet they both feel lonely and unappreciated. Goleman Emotional Intelligence gives a number of reasons for this.

Authentic connection requires understanding another person’s perspective. Most adults believe they consider their partner’s thoughts and feelings when negotiating personal needs. Surprisingly most are not as skilled at this process as they believe. One quick test to determine how good you are at this is to ask your partner. State what you believe to be their opinion or how you think they feel about a situation. If you are correct, they will let you know. If you’ve missed the boat, work on your listening skills. If your partner reports something very different than was said. If you learn something that makes you feel uncomfortable the second time around, chances are you’re on the right track. Take the risk that your partner will understand your discomfort and feel the connection.

Jan 17

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Getting Married Abroad

With the growing popularity of weddings abroad, more couples than ever before are considering the option of jetting away and celebrating their wedding in a unique and fabulous location.

I know from personal experience the decision to get married abroad is not one you make lightly and there definitely are both advantages and disadvantages in having your wedding abroad.

So how do you know if getting married abroad is right for you?

Firstly, the most important factor to remember is that the decision to get married abroad is very personal and it’s not something anyone else can do for you – you will need to weigh up all the pros and cons and give each a measure of importance to you as a couple.

For Sharon and Simon, the decision to have a destination wedding began after they started planning a traditional wedding in their hometown. As their plans progressed, Sharon commented that “it just didn’t feel right to us, neither of us felt overjoyed about this type of wedding”. During a planning session, her partner Simon casually mentioned that he would love to get married in a tropical rainforest and immediately they both knew this was how they wanted to celebrate their wedding day.

So after many long discussions, Sharon and Simon made the decision to cancel their big affair in their hometown but were very apprehensive about informing their family and friends of their change in plans. Sharon said, “we had needlessly put ourselves through a lot of anguish, pondering whether cancelling was the right decision, and about the reactions we would receive. Everyone surprised us saying it was a fantastic idea, and gave us their full support, so we worried needlessly about pleasing everyone all along”.

From her experiences, Sharon advice to all couples is that “if the idea of breaking with conformity, and disappointing family and friends is hindering your decision to have a wedding abroad, my advice is go for it. I guarantee you will be pleasantly surprised at the reaction you receive from those you inform. Once you take the plunge, your wedding takes on a whole new magical feel and then your choices are limitless”. So what do other couples say that’ve had their wedding abroad?

The following list of advantages and disadvantages comes from the real life experiences of couples who have had a destination wedding.

The Advantages of Getting Married Abroad.

• Our choice of destinations and locations was endless.

• We had our wedding in a unique and spectacular setting. The photos were amazing!

• The cost of getting married abroad was significantly cheaper than if we’d of had our wedding at home.

• The planning was easy and stress free because we hired the services of a wedding planner.

• We didn’t get caught in the conveyer-belt of the traditional weddings, where couples often find themselves having the same format and style as every other wedding simply because there is no scope to do anything else.

• Our families had a special week on holiday together, it made our wedding more than just a day, and it ensured that only our nearest and dearest attended, rather than the 150 guests at the evening reception made up of the obligatory people from work and our parents’ friends.

• Our friends and family were really relaxed and they enjoyed it so much more as it was a holiday for them. The atmosphere was amazing and the weather was perfect.

• The entire day & location reflected our personalities. It was also more intimate and a lot more relaxed than it would have been at home.

The Disadvantages of Getting Married Abroad

• Some loved-ones simply couldn’t attend, and their absence was really felt.

• It may cost your guests more to attend your wedding abroad and you do need to be mindful of this. Some guests may feel a little resentful about this fact.

• You have to go with the flow a bit more when you get married abroad. If you are using a wedding planner or a tour operator, it is not always possible to be as hands on as you may like.

• Logistically it can be quite hard. When I planned my table decorations and favours, for example, I forgot that I had to actually ship them all to the venue!

• If you’re using foreign suppliers you may not get EXACTLY what you want. For example, my bouquet was slightly different to what I expected, but it was still beautiful.

• You may be taking risks with suppliers. I booked our chapel, hair & makeup, photographer and restaurant all over the internet based on recommendations picked up in wedding forums! It was risky but it all came off perfectly. If you can handle the risk then go for it!

 

 

Jan 17

How to keep the magic alive in your marriage

Relationships are as brittle as glass might be. You therefore have to treat your partner with respect and love always to ensure that they are satisfied and that they do not get to walk out on you soon. This article gives you a glimpse of some of the things that you can do in your relationship in order to keep the relationship burning.

Picnics are known to work in this interest. Take your partner for outs and have fun. Buy food stuffs and clothes at the mall, travel to the national parks, the museum or even go watch the waters flowing at your nearest river. Some of these things might interest your partner. It is important to take initiative and do them without waiting for the partner to prompt you.

Have you ever though of breakfast or dinner in bed? This is another technique that has been keeping the magic alive in many relationships. It gives your partner a feeling of belonging basing on the care that comes with it. Leaving your partner asleep and relieving them the stresses of making breakfast is very comforting.

Sending flowers and gifts to your partner when they do not expect it is also another thing that works lots of wonders in the relationship. It also helps to build your affection and also how other people perceive your relationship.

Writing poems is considered cliche but still works in a couple of settings. You can use the poem to exonerate your partner by telling them all the good things in life. Men usually have the responsibility of doing so.

There are many other things that you can do in order to keep the fire burning in a relationship. These tips apply to married couples. Youthful relationships are more explosive because each of the individuals wants to be seen in the limelight and would do anything, not matter how weird it is to keep their partner happy.

Jan 17

Navigating the Power Struggle Stage of Your Relationship

Let’s face it at some time or another almost every healthy relationship suffers a breakdown where one or both parties are ready to walk out the door. This is the natural ebb and flow. As much as you want your intimate relationship to work out sometimes it just does not seem possible. The differences between the two of you may seem to create a chasm where all the unmet needs and hurtful words get dumped like an emotional landfill. The power struggle stage of any relationship is inevitable and will most likely surface around year three after the lust, attraction, and love drug phase wear off.

Suggestion #1 Many times the way your partner relates to you speaks to you, or mistreats you is not directed at you, but an old wound from his past directed at his parent, an ex, or an employer. Each time he mistreats you ask him this:
How much of this is in the here and now and how much of this is your past coming forward?
Any chance you are projecting your feelings for your ex (Mom, Dad, or boss) on me?
That will cause him to stop and think. You may not get the satisfaction of admittance, but you may settle down a heated argument and make him aware.

Suggestion #2 Think about the main need not being fulfilled in your relationship. Now take a slow deep breath and be honest with yourself. What is the relationship need that you may be looking to your partner to meet that you are perfectly capable of meeting for yourself? When and where have you decided that he was the only means to getting this need met?

This concept is to empower you, not blame yourself. Many times we show up in our relationships as an unempowered guest that gets disappointed by the host. Make an empowered list of ways that you can meet this sexual, emotional, physical, financial need independently. That will liberate you and remove your own frustration and disappointment.

Suggestion #3 Decide what your role is in the relationship. Often we enter into relationships and set up one or more of these roles for ourselves: cleaning lady, care giver, mother, financial provider, sexual liaison, mistress, selfless martyr, etc without being totally aware. Perhaps your partner took advantage of your kindness; perhaps you gave out of neediness. Perhaps you took advantage of your partner’s softness. Now go back to the beginning of the relationship. What role may have you inadvertently set up with your partner that you or he never agreed to? What possibly did you over give…sex, money, cleaning, childcare, availability, career, values, or time? What did you overtake or control? Where did you settle for less than you deserved or compromise yourself or compromised your partner against your better judgment?

Define a new role for yourself. Ask your partner to define his new role. Create balanced relationship agreements that fit with your own needs and lifestyle. Go back and gently reclaim what you once gave away. Remember this change may upset the dynamics of the relationship that may have previously tipped the scale in your partner’s favor or vice versa. It is better to upset the dynamics than to continue compromising.

Suggestion # 4 Expectations and Fantasy set us up for disappointment. Expectations are not who your partner is, fantasy is not who you are, reality is who you both are. Look for areas in the relationship that leave you or your partner feeling let down. Whether it is in the bedroom, domestic chores, paying bills, being more romantic, spending more time together, how do you feel your partner never delivered what was expected of him? How may your partner feel you never delivered what was expected of you?

Now take a minute and ask yourself if these are expectations you assumed he would fulfill because that’s what you saw your father or mother do? Are these expectations that an ex partner once fulfilled? Or being very honest with your self did these agreements happen in your head? Now ask your partner the same questions. Now both of you ask yourselves this: Did I directly ask for my needs with “I need” statements, not “you don’t” statements?

Men need details laid out in exact terms before hand, not after the fact. Most guys don’t possess the intuitive or nurturing qualities that women possess. Believe it or not he will need to know there is a benefit in it for him. So voice your needs, then let him know what’s in it for him and you will get a better response. If you still can not seem to get his participation, repeat suggestion # 2 and gently let him know the benefit he will miss out on.

Suggestion # 5 Forgiveness is not a verb; it is a process for a woman. For a woman to achieve forgiveness she needs to go through the grieving cycle like a death, the death of trust. When trust is broken for a man he leaves the relationship or flips a brain switch which allows him to move on. This is not physiologically or emotionally possible for a woman. A woman’s brain is wired to release forgiveness in small bits as she grieves. Forgiveness comes from self soothing, talking about the pain, hurt, and betrayal, going through anger, denial and tears. Each time you bring up the injustice you are needing validation and remorse from your partner. This process will be repeated many times in order for the female brain to make sense of the pain, release bits of forgiveness, and complete healing. If your partner thwarts this process in an attempt to stop his own discomfort, he interferes with this healing and forgiveness cycle.

Jan 17

Magic of making up

Being in a relationship is one of the best things that could happen to someone. Contrary, there are times when things get complicated, messed-up and sometimes ugly. This happens and will continue to happen till extinction of the human race. Yet the hope for lovely relationship does not end there. Trust me, you can get your ex back and rekindle the love and those lovely moments you once shared.

I was one who thought myself to be invincible and had similar feeling for the state of my relationship. Then came the clouds of darkness and my world was turned upside down. My Girlfriend whom I loved so much (more than me and my life) was now acting so harsh, so rude and so different than I ever imagined in my life. I was confused and quite clueless. I wondered how can I get my ex back. My relationship and love life was completely shattered. I must admit that there was a moment where an idea about suicide came in mind. I consulted many friends, referred to books and even tried the professional help of a relationship counselor. Some worked (very less) while other methods simply backfired.

I realized that I needed advice from a real expert. I was lucky to find system by T. W. Jackson that helped me a great deal to bring back her, her love and the wonderful life. Those troublesome days are long gone and now I am living my dream life. Thank god and thanks to Mr. T. W. Jackson.

Why I have no problem in recommending Magic of Making Up by T. W. Jackson

It did magic for me and my life:

If at the time of breakup with my GF my life was hell then I am surely now in heaven. The system is truly life transforming and has got some sort of magic potion. It introduces me to some of the big secrets about a relationship. “The secrets” because it’s harder to even think about them until someone explains them to you. The magic behind the magic of making up is that if you follow his instructions and practice those daily, you will certainly get your ex back.

Helped me to find expectations of my partner were:

I was really amazed to find the contrast in my offerings and her expectations. I was offering her the stuff and gifts while all she demanded was time to spend together.

Lets you to focus on key cause and provides the method for rectification

I have now learned that before knowing those secret I was ever engaged in doing the things that were going nothing good to my relationship. What I was doing was like scraping the wound as an attempt to heal it. I was so stupid ….But is now I am completely different person.

I also like the way in which I was introduced and the manner in which the things were presented to me. At first I was not able to understand (agree) many of those points. There were times when I asked myself “do I now need to do this …” but once I lowered my ego and worked over those very valid points the outcome was great. “MY Love WAS BACK IN MY LIFE” and I owe it all to the Magic of Making up. It truly showed me what I needed to change within myself to get my ex back and I am so grateful.

As a summary to this great system I can say that most of us are not aware about the things that matter and work over hit-and-trial methods. Problem is not where we usually search for it.

If you are also having any sort of issue in your relationship then my advice is to try Magic of Making Up by T. W. Jackson. I do not have a least bit of uncertainty for effectiveness of this wonderful system.

There is nothing more joyful, relaxing and wonderful than a happy relationship with your partner. Love life is all about acting with calm mind and T. W. Jackson‘s system will let you know the correct path to follow and soon you’ll be on your way to getting back with you ex.